Single Status, Committed Heart: Are You Stuck in the In-Between?

Are You Really Single? You tell yourself you’re single. You tell others you’re single. But are you?

Because if you hesitate when another guy asks for your number…

If you feel guilty accepting a date…

If you keep updating a certain someone about your day... 

Then maybe—just maybe—you’re not as single as you think.

Many of us unknowingly attach ourselves before commitment—giving loyalty, emotional investment, and even relationship privileges to someone who hasn’t claimed us.

I get it. I’ve seen it happen. I’ve even experienced it and that’s why I’m writing this. 

So, let’s talk. Are you really single, or are you just emotionally taken and what does it look like? 

1. Seeking His Validation Before Making Decisions

You stand in front of the mirror, choosing between two dresses, and your first thought is, Which one would he like?

You get invited somewhere, but before deciding, you wonder, Would he approve of this?

2. Feeling Guilty for Entertaining Other Men

A guy asks for your number, and you hesitate. Someone invites you to dinner, and you feel like you need permission to go. But permission from who?

You’re single. No one has claimed you. Yet, you feel an invisible tie holding you back. That’s not singleness—that’s emotional attachment disguised as loyalty.

3. Giving Him Relationship Privileges Without a Relationship

He knows everything—where you are, how your day went, what’s bothering you. You prioritize his opinion, seek his comfort, and let him influence your choices.

It feels like something, but it’s not. 

4. Trying Too Hard to Impress Him

Now, let’s talk about something tricky.

Maybe you’re not acting taken, but you’re making conscious efforts to get his attention. 

You change how you dress, talk, or act, hoping he’ll notice you. You subtly bring up things he likes, just to keep the conversation going. You put extra effort into being available whenever he’s around.

Attraction is natural, and there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be noticed. But when impressing him becomes a priority over being yourself, it’s a sign to step back because the right person will notice you—not because you’re trying to be seen, but because you are authentically you.

6. Subconsciously Acting Like You’re Taken

When someone flirts with you, you shut it down. When a guy shows interest, you act unavailable. Not because you’re in a relationship or you don't like him, but because you feel taken. 

By who?

By someone who hasn’t even made it clear that he wants to be with you.

So, What’s the Lesson Here?

If you’re not in a committed relationship, you are single. Liking someone is normal. Wanting to impress them is understandable. But don’t unconsciously put yourself in an emotional commitment that doesn’t exist.

Until a man chooses you and commits to you, you owe no one exclusivity, loyalty, or emotional investment.

So go ahead—blush over a sweet text, accept a compliment, and say yes to that dinner invitation. You are single, and that’s okay.

What do you think? Let’s talk!




Comments

  1. AnonymousFebruary 8, 2025 at 12:27 PM

    Defining our relationships would go a long way to save us from emotional entanglement.

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