The Fellowship God Died For: He Just Wants to Gist With You

By the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the sweet fellowship of the Holy Spirit…

We say this in almost every Christian gathering. It’s so familiar that sometimes we recite it without thinking. But here’s the real question:

Do you truly have the fellowship of the Holy Spirit?

What Is Fellowship?

Fellowship is the feeling of closeness, friendship, and deep connection. It’s not passive. It doesn’t just “be with us now and forevermore.” It’s cultivated—for as long as you’re willing to keep it alive.

Why Did Jesus Really Have to Die?

One day, I asked myself, Why did Jesus have to die?

God is the Creator—He could’ve made another man. What exactly was so broken that only the blood of Jesus could fix?

The answer? Fellowship. My proof? Let's look at this scripture:

“And Jesus cried again with a loud voice and gave up His spirit. And at once the curtain of the sanctuary of the temple was torn in two from top to bottom…”

—Matthew 27:50–51 (AMPC)

The moment Jesus died, the veil in the temple—symbolizing the separation between man and God—was torn from top to bottom. God didn’t wait a second. It’s like He had been waiting for this moment all along: the moment He could be close to us again.

Now here’s what breaks my heart:

God has done everything to restore the intimacy He once had with us in the garden… but we still act like strangers. We put boundaries on our relationship with Him.

We tell Him: “This area of struggle? Yes, come in. But this joyful part? It’s mine.” We use God. We take advantage of His love.

But if no one has ever told you this, let me be the first to:

God wants a relationship with you. And not just in theory. He made Himself accessible through the Holy Spirit so He could dwell with us—right here, right now.

Why Fellowship Matters

God didn’t need to send the Holy Spirit for power alone—He wanted presence.

He didn’t want to just empower you from afar; He wanted to walk with you. He wants to be your Lord, yes—but also your Friend.

Abraham was called a friend of God. David was a man after God’s own heart.

These were people who didn’t just fear God—they fellowshipped with Him. God literally said He couldn’t destroy Sodom without first telling Abraham. Why?

Because it wouldn’t feel right to make such a big move without telling His friend. Imagine that kind of relationship.

So How Do You Build Fellowship With the Holy Spirit?

Here are four practical ways:

1. Communication

Talk to Him. Not just formal prayers. Real, raw, daily conversations.

I call it “gist time.” If every time your friend meets with you, he or she is always talking about work or school, do you think you'll make that person your best friend. They'll just be your friend for serious matters but not intimate friends. So in this context of communication, it's not about saying "let me take nations, set me on fire" even if such prayers are very important but rather it is communication of intimacy. It's the time when you give Him the update of what's happening in your life.

Tell Him everything—the girl that caught your eye, the heartbreak, the promotion, the stress. Make Him your go-to gist partner.

Intimacy grows in the small talks, not just the big declarations.

2. Vulnerability

Be real. God doesn’t need you to clean yourself up before coming to Him. Tell Him about the struggles, addictions, and temptations.

Let Him love the version of you you’re scared to show anyone else. 

Vulnerability breeds trust.

3. Interest

Don’t just seek what He can do—seek who He is, be interested in His person. How would you feel if a person who claims to love you only calls you or visits when they need something. You'll feel it's fake right?

So ask Him:

“How are You?”

“What are You thinking?”

“Are You pleased with me?”

God is not a vending machine. He has feelings. He wants to be known, not just used.

4. Submission

Let Him lead. Invite Him into your decisions. Ask for His opinion on everything—from who to date to what to wear. It sounds silly, but that’s how relationships work.

Fellowship = Connection.

And connection is impossible without involvement.

Final Thoughts: God Desires You

Let’s not treat God like a distant deity who only shows up in emergencies.

Let’s treat Him like a Father. A Friend. A Companion.

He already tore the veil. It’s time we tore down our walls too.

He wants your heart—not just your hallelujah. Give Him your love, your attention, your affection.

Not because He needs it… but because He wants it.




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